At the end of almost every date, I hear, “That went so fast; I wish we had more time!”
Don’t worry, I’m thinking exactly the same thing! Unfortunately, the age-old saying “time flies when you’re having fun,” tends to ring true for most of my encounters. One minute, I’m welcoming you in and the next, it seems, we’re hugging goodbye.
While the obvious solution to this is to spend more time together, and nothing would delight me more, the truth is that we all have busy lives that demand our return from this all too brief tryst. However, that doesn’t mean we can’t make the most of what we get to share. Here are a few ways I have found to make our reprieve from real life a little more satisfying.
First things first…get yourself mentally and physically ready for an experience unlike any other. A little pre-date grooming will have you feeling fresh and can be a great way to get in a sexy mindset! As you get dressed, take a moment to appreciate your body for the work of art it is. Flatter yourself by taking note of your favorite features. We all deserve a little more self-love these days and, besides, nothing is more attractive than a confident man!
While we’ve undoubtedly both spent hours anticipating and preparing for our date, this can sometimes create nerves that have a pesky way of ruining a good time. Suitors often share that they have a tough time getting out of their heads and just enjoying my company. I get this because I too struggle with turning off my thoughts. However, a deep breath before knocking on or opening the door can ground you and clear your mind. Don’t worry about how you look or what you’ll say. Just being here is everything I could want and more! Set aside any expectations and let things flow naturally so we can see where the night (or day) leads.
Allow yourself to experience our meeting with all your senses. I assure you our date will be a memory we’ll want to cherish so take in the texture of my skin and the smell of my hair in addition to the sight of my smile and the sound of my voice. Taste my lips on yours. Feel them graze your neck as my hands explore your chest. Lean into the experience.
Throughout our date, remember that communication only brings us closer so speak up about what you need and want. Tell me your deepest desires. Time together is always a safe space for exploration and I yearn to be your confidante. I love to listen and learn about my suitors so indulge me by sharing what I can do to make our date unforgettable.
As you open up, remember to give yourself a little grace. We’re only human so it’s natural to want to compare ourselves to others but avoid this temptation. Many times I’m asked how one suitor compares to others or will hear a gent say he wishes he could do more for me. You are already giving me the ultimate gift: your time and attention. You are wonderfully unique and that’s what makes our time together so special. Don’t worry about drawing comparisons; they’re the furthest thing from my mind when I’m the object of your affection.
Finally, if we have enough time, doing an activity outside the bedroom can be another way to deepen our connection and create wonderful memories. A shared experience bonds us like nothing else so take me to your favorite restaurant or show. Better yet, teach me a new skill like painting or playing guitar. I love to learn, especially from a great teacher! Or, let me show you around Raleigh, Durham, or Greensboro with a few stops at my favorite spots.
Even with all these in mind, you may still find our date flying by but, as the band Trooper famously said, “We’re here for a good time, not a long time.” If you’re left wanting more, know that I am too and I’m already looking forward to the next time we see each other.
Want to experience your dream girl(friend) next door? What are you waiting for…ask me out now!